Remember those road trips we took as children? The question we always seemed to be asking our parents was: “Are we there yet?”
Where is “there” anyway?
“There” always seems to be in the future. It’s associated with some hallmark or rite of passage that we are supposed to want to achieve:
- we want a birthday that has double digits
- we want to go to high school
- we want to get our driver’s license
- we want to legitimately(!) purchase adult beverages
- we want to graduate from university
- we want to get hired to our first position after graduation
- we want to get promoted
- we want to be successful
You get it. You can create your own list.
“There” is always on our Horizon. Our next goal, whatever it is we are supposed to be targeting.
We perceive that Getting-To-There defines us.
But does it? Really?
We pay so much attention throughout our lives striving to reach some hallmark or benchmark that we often miss out on appreciating the sum total of all the remarkable and tiny factors that impact us and make us who we really are.
It’s as though we have blinders on. Blinders directing us to “There.”
After all, we are the sum total of all the people, experiences, encounters, and exchanges that occur on our way from Here to There. We all have lots of stuff to teach each other. We can’t learn if we are so blindly busy on achieving a target on the horizon.
Perhaps it’s time to breathe, take a look around on your personal horizon, and understand that we are always There. It’s where we are now. I’m not telling you become complacent with Now. I am recommending that where you are, now, may actually represent where you have wanted to go when you thought about getting “There.”
You may have already arrived.
Now that you are “There” how do you plan on making the most out of reaching your destination?